as i approach my thirty first birthday, i am feeling very reflective of where i am in life. i never really make resolutions at new years. i tend to wait for my birthday to set out what i have planned and goaled for that year. this past year. it's been tough. intense. challenging. growing. i know we all go through seasons in life that are not ideal. i know my struggles are of no more importance than yours or anyone else's. but it was tough.  the title i chose is ironic and appropriate because i think we believe a lot of lies. we live in a very competitive and comparative society. we measure social media followings, physical appearance, education, and career advancements almost as social currencies in a world where no one can really keep up. and yes, i get it. i love getting my 100+ likes on my instagram photos. and yes, i'd even really love to have 1000+ likes.  the point is that we chase after things that will bring us status. amongst our friends, our c...